Leaving your family isn't a choice that people take lightly. It takes a lot of years and sometimes is a gradual process and not a big blow out that has caused this.
Majority of the time family estrangement involves being physically and or/emotionally distanced from one or more family members, where communication and interactions are significantly reduced or absent.
The reasons for taking the decision to leave can be but is not limited to the following:
- Abuse
- Parental neglect
- different values
- different expectations about the roles in the house not being fulfilled
- death of a family member
- illness
- divorce
- harsh parenting styles
- drug or alcohol misuse
- parental alienation
- enmeshment
- incarceration
- untreated mental health conditions
Cultural pressures and religious guilt play a part in family members still staying in touch even though it impacts their mental health greatly.
At times there is a shame associated with family members trying to keep their distance. Even making the choice to go no contact can result is feelings of loss, grief and isolation.
It is normal to feel anger and resentment towards the one who is seen as the cause of the estrangement or even towards to situation itself.
Be kind to yourself and understand that you are not alone in this experience.
Instead of ruminating on the hurt, focus on building a fulfilling life with the positive relationships you have.
Seek support by talking to friends and family members can help. Sharing your experience with someone who understands can be validating and reduce feelings of isolation.
Consider therapy or counselling. A therapist specialises in family estrangement can provide guidance and support to navigate the emotions you are experiencing.
If you would like to share your experience leave a comment below.
Written by Sultana Anwar Hayat
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